Forgiveness= Closure.

Forgiveness is for you. Closure is a scam.

We can literally just end it there and say good night. Have a lovely week guys. But please, allow me to elaborate.

Forgiving someone for something they did to you, does not mean that whatever transpired didn’t happened. It sure did and you know it did, you may even remember it like it was yesterday, you felt whatever it is that you felt at the time. Forgiving someone however, means that you no longer allow whatever happened to have a hold on your life. Forgiveness is for yourself and not the other person. The other person is living their best life with or without you holding a grudge on them.

Forgiveness is a choice that you make for yourself. When you forgive, you choose yourself and your future over the hurt of the past. It means that person that did you wrong has no hold on you.  You can only move on when you forgive.

However, Forgiveness does not mean reconciliation!

You do not have to let them back in your life. You do not have to let them back in your space. You are under no obligation to become friends with them again. You do not have to patch things up. It is ok if you burn some bridges and leave them burnt because there are certain things, you just cannot afford to go back to and that’s ok.

This is where my flesh comes in. I forgive but darling you did what you did, I felt what I felt, it is what it is. Stay far away from me. Bad energy stay far away! I know the bible says forgive and forget but this is between God and myself so please mind your business.

No, you cannot hold people on to their mistakes for years and years, because people do change, people grow, people evolve but you do not have to be there to witness their change. That’s not the version you know. It is completely up to you, to want to get to know them again or not.

Closure is what you make of it. I don’t understand how people be like ooh I want to talk to him/her, I need closure. If you are that kind of person that needs explanation, by all means, go for it.

But I say this, closure is what you make of it. Why allow someone give me an excuse as to why they treated me like trash, used my insecurities against me, gaslighted me or whatever it is someone can possibly do to me. I, personally, I don’t need it because its not going to change what happened. Moreover, if I’ve already moved on from it, why let someone take me back to what I’ve left behind? Furthermore, sometimes “closure” just never happens.

What you think I don’t get angry? And by no means am I trying to be a hypocrite here, I do get angry, and some people can attest to the fact that I also have said things I may not have meant in the heat of the moment, but they are levels to this, and nobody owes me anything. They don’t have to stay and wait for me to grow and get my shit together.

You will not have a conversation about whatever happened all the time. you will not get it sometimes, even if you ask for it. So what you gon do? Sit there and not forgive?

You do not need “closure” once you forgive because your closure is yours and its what you make of it. Now go ahead and forgive some people that did you wrong. Now chin up and read Isaiah 41:10.