Hey Dad…..
It feels very strange calling you “Dad”. Lately when Sarah, Patricia and I speak about you, i tend to call you by your name. It feels more normal. So allow me to start this again
Hey Gabriel,
Isn’t it sad that it feels more normal to call you that? I was listening to “dance with my father again” by Luther Vandross and I thought of you. I hope you are doing well.
Forgiveness is for you. Closure is a scam.
We can literally just end it there and say good night. Have a lovely week guys. But please, allow me to elaborate.
Forgiving someone for something they did to you, does not mean that whatever transpired didn’t happened. It sure did and you know it did, you may even remember it like it was yesterday, you felt whatever it is that you felt at the time. Forgiving someone however, means that you no longer allow whatever happened to have a hold on your life. Forgiveness is for yourself and not the other person. The other person is living their best life with or without you holding a grudge on them.
Forgiveness is a choice that you make for yourself. When you forgive, you choose yourself and your future over the hurt of the past. It means that person that did you wrong has no hold on you. You can only move on when you forgive.
However, Forgiveness does not mean reconciliation!
You do not have to let them back in your life. You do not have to let them back in your space. You are under no obligation to become friends with them again. You do not have to patch things up. It is ok if you burn some bridges and leave them burnt because there are certain things, you just cannot afford to go back to and that’s ok.
This is where my flesh comes in. I forgive but darling you did what you did, I felt what I felt, it is what it is. Stay far away from me. Bad energy stay far away! I know the bible says forgive and forget but this is between God and myself so please mind your business.
No, you cannot hold people on to their mistakes for years and years, because people do change, people grow, people evolve but you do not have to be there to witness their change. That’s not the version you know. It is completely up to you, to want to get to know them again or not.
Closure is what you make of it. I don’t understand how people be like ooh I want to talk to him/her, I need closure. If you are that kind of person that needs explanation, by all means, go for it.
Happy valentine’s day my lovelies. I believe I have mentioned this before, but for those who do not know let me say this again, I love love. There is nothing in this world that will make me not believe in love or make me to not want to fall in love. I have so much love to give so why waste that love. I am so in this valentine’s day, I do not even know why and yes I am listening to love songs for dramatic effect. You know how when you are sad, you listen to sad songs for more sadness…yes, I do both, do not judge me.
One day at a time