new year – One day at a time

6 Reminders In 2022!

Is it too late to go through some reminders for the year?? Meh I’ll tell you still…

This is what we’re doing this year:

Be kind. Does this need elaboration? The answer is NO. Just be kind to people. You don’t have to know what they’re going through, hell they don’t have to be going through shit. You just be kind.
Rest. Take a breather. Pretty self-explanatory as well. As a woman, a BLACK woman, we’ve long been deceived that we’re strong. You hear things like “strong black woman”. And for a long time, I thought I had to be. Baby listen, now, I am not strong. In fact, I am weak. I want to be weak. I want to be taken care of. I am delicate. I am an egg, because if you drop me, I break, so be careful with me. What am I even saying, I am a flower, don’t pluck me, just water me. Water me with love, with affection, with MONEY and all the good things in life.
Welcome and embrace your growth. Being in a space of growth can be an uncomfortable place to be. For growth to take place, you have to be comfortable with being uncomfortable. Some people may not understand your journey and that’s ok. Growth does not mean that you won’t fall back into your old ways once in a while, but I hope we are all able to recognize it early enough, so we don’t fall into the same pattern.
Stand your ground. When you believe you’re genuinely doing the right thing and not being an asshole to other people, stand your ground and do whatever it takes to keep your peace because, let me tell you, thou shall be tested. Take whatever precautions, whatever measures you think is right for you and maintain it. Don’t be shaken by people’s opinions of you, don’t be moved when people take a different stance than you, because everybody is entitled to their opinions. Besides opinions are like assholes, we all have one.
Leave. Another self-explanatory point I believe.
Shine. Just like Rihanna shine bright like a diamond. Don’t dim your light for other people. Work on getting rid of that imposter syndrome that you’re having. Accept the great opportunities coming your way. You’re not meant to struggle. Let that little light of yours shine and don’t worry about other people shinning at the same time because the same way the stars all shine together in the sky, is the same way we all can shine at the same time. The world is big enough to accommodate all of us. Just find your purpose and shine.

Now you guys know the drill, chin up and read Isaiah 41:10.

Is it too late to wish you guys a happy new year? Hahaha……AAAAAHHHH Happy New Year my lovelies. It’s been a hot minute. I hope all of you have been chinning up and if you haven’t baby I am back and I’ve got you because we gon chin up together.

Listen, ive been thinking about something that I wanted to focus on and invest in more this year……which are my friendships.

And let me tell you, the only constant thing in life is change. Repeat after me CHANGE.

Like everyone else, once the new year ended you get into this rubbish reminiscing mode, and you write down your goals blabla… Tbh I have zero goals for this year. I am just winging it. I have certain things I want to have at least set in motion but that’s it.

However, one thing that was really on my mind is my friendships and the people I choose to share my time and energy with.

It all started when I was thinking about few of my schoolmates, who have unfortunately passed. And it was a wake-up call that life is too short and we should all be investing in friendships and people that equally invest in us.

Friendship breakups are real, they are uncomfortable and scary, but the truth is, some people just gotta go for better people to come. And if I didn’t know it then, I know it now…. friendship dynamics will change. And you will have to decide if some friendships are worth saving or if its time to let go.

That is one of the most difficult decisions we all will have to make in life unfortunately, to hold on or to let go. It don’t matter if its family, friendships, romantic relationships, career…the decision between holding on and letting go is inevitable.

Furthermore listen, please not everyone is your friend. Not everyone deserves to be your friend. Let’s learn to address people correctly. They may be your colleague, your old friend, your acquaintance, your subordinates, your fellow student….

And even amongst friendships, there are friends and there are FRIENDS. Some are only good for restaurants and party, some are good for banter, some you speak to every few months and it’s like you guys have always been in touch.

With some friends you share the process and with some you only tell them the end game and vice versa. Listen lets all know our places in people’s lives and act accordingly.

I was recently disappointed by a few friends because I felt like hey I should have known but I’m also working on acting according to how my so called friends treat me. Maybe I just wasn’t that important, and they didn’t think to share certain information with me, as disappointing as it may seem, that showed me that we may just may not be as close as I thought and that is okay. Don’t overdo it.

If they don’t invite you, don’t go and do not ask to be invited. If they don’t tell you, don’t ask. They don’t include you, go do your thing. Learn to be ok with not being invited, included, or even considered.

People invest in relationships that are important to them. And rejection isn’t even as personal as it seems. Maybe it wasn’t meant to be, maybe you weren’t their person, or they weren’t your person. Invest your energy in those that are also effortlessly investing in you, but without feeling entitled to anybody’s energy or time or whatever. People have freedom of choice, the same way you do.

Now you already know the drill, Chin up and read Isiah 41:10.