Love and Romantic Relationships

Listen… if you know me, you already know how much I love me some love. I’m just smiling really….. Happy Valentine’s Day my lovelies, I sure hope you all went all out for your romantic partners. I for one wasn’t so lucky but I feel so much better now. I just got off the phone with my sisters and they clearly had a blast.

I love all the valentine content I’m seeing on social media, I’m loving the pictures I got from my friends. People are going all out this year and I am loving it. Is it all the bouquets of flowers, the rooms decorated in red roses, the long distance boyfriends and girlfriends doing special deliveries, making sure their partners are happy….I’m loving all of it and I am here for it. Enjoy it. I hope the love continues tomorrow and forever.

And for all of you hiding your boyfriend’s face….. you think you’re mature init😂

For the chronic single ones, who don’t have a bae, better luck next year

For the ones who are in relationships yet didn’t get spoiled… I have no words, are you not embarrassed because I am embarrassed for you 😂

For those in relationships but claim they don’t celebrate Val’s day, well you don’t celebrate Val’s day but yet you also got nothing for Christmas and your birthday, Sir, Ma’am sorry to break it to you but your partner don’t like you. These ones be claiming “valentine’s day is just another day” ok but did you get flowers on March 24 tho?? So what’s your point

For all of us that nobody posted, no gifts, no sweet messages, no office deliveries, no I love you, no you are the light of my life, no I miss you, I wish you were here, no late night calls…..just existing baby girl, show yourself some self love. Don’t be like my friend who’s currently sipping her tears in self pity 😂 it’s not the end of the world. Call a friend, there’s always next years and you have the rest of the year to find your suitable bae. If that doesn’t work out, we can all have a GALentines day. Turn on some candles, listen to some music. Whatever you do, remember to read Isaiah 41:10 because clearly he’s the only one who’s gon spoil us at this point.

Hi lovelies, it’s been a hot minute. Hope you all are doing just fine.

You know how sometimes you aren’t happy but you’re also not unhappy, you’re just existing in between and just taking it as it comes…. Yeah, that has been me….

Lmao, who am I kidding, I’ve been stressed with a lot of necessary and unnecessary things and therefore I keep pouring from an almost empty cup. I recently found out that my dad has been trying to get a hold of me…don’t really know how to feel about that…

I should be sleeping. Its 2:48a.m, I haven’t gotten much sleep the whole week. However instead of sleeping, I let someone’s words and actions make me feel as though I was difficult to love…I’ve been in this position a few times in my life. But we love love around here so here are a few reminders, for you and me, of what love may look like.

love is a verb, hence it always requires action.

Sometimes love is as simple as just paying attention to the one in front of you

It’s in the genuine “text me when you get home”.

It’s in the “naah I can’t do the other person like this”.

It’s in the “I got you”.

It’s in the “Hey I’m just a little busy/occupied right now, I’ll text back as soon as I can”.

It’s in the “I know you’ve been feeling a little down lately, let me run you a bath”.

It’s in the “good morning beautiful, good morning handsome” text message.

It’s in the random “Hey I’m just thinking about you, what are you up”.

It’s in the “I remember you liked these, so I got them for you”.

It’s in the “Hey I booked us a table and a ticket to go watch something”.

It’s in the “I thought I’d cook us some food and we watch Netflix”.

It’s in the “Tell me everything about your day”.

It’s in the “What can I do to make you feel better”.

It’s in the random meme, picture, voice not and song that was sent.

It’s in the hug that lasted a little bit longer.

It’s in the comfortable silence.

It’s in the nonverbal thoughtful gesture.

It’s in the long train/bus/car/plane ride just to see you.

It’s in the updates while hanging out with friends individually.

It’s in the laughter.

It’s in the sadness.

It’s in the tears.

It’s in the compliments.

It’s in the dates at a fancy restaurant.

It’s in the dates at a diner.

It’s in the cuddles.

It’s in the trust.

It’s in the safety.

It’s in the genuine apology.

It’s in the forgiveness.

It’s in the healthy misunderstandings.

It’s in the respected boundaries.

It’s in the priorities.

It’s in the appreciation.

It’s in the vulnerability.

It’s in the reciprocity.

It’s in the friendship.

It’s in the honesty.

It’s in the prayers.

It’s in the transparency.

It’s in the accountability.

It’s in the mutual respect.

It’s in the “I may not understand what you’re going through, but you will not go through it alone”.

Its in every gesture that’s deemed little or/and insignificant because those are the ones that matter most.

I don’t know what love is, but I want to believe that some of these points make up a big part of it. It may be expressed differently depending on the person and the situation but the core value remains the same.

Make sure to chin up and read Isaiah 41:10.