The Great Dad Vs. The Average Mom.

Happy Mother’s Day to only the beautiful, involved, supportive, present, healthy, positive mothers, single mothers, stepmothers, mother figures, and bonus mothers. Hell happy Mother’s Day to the single fathers who have their kids most of the time and do all the work, they are being mommy and daddy at the same time right?

Before we get into this post, here’s a disclaimer:

I acknowledge that not all dads are deadbeats.

I acknowledge that there are some great, involved, and present fathers out there.

I acknowledge that there are women who keep fathers away from their children.

I acknowledge that women also abandon their children. I am in no way against men or fathers. In fact, it’s the opposite. I love men and I love seeing fathers fully committed to their children.

However, this post is about the double standards women/mothers face in our society…

Don’t you guys find it interesting that what makes a great dad, is usually what’s considered the average mom? Let that sink in…

Why do we criticize the single mother for staying, instead of criticizing the man who impregnated her and left her with all the responsibilities of raising a child on her own? Didn’t it take two to tango anymore? I am extremely confused.

I hear people always saying oh well it’s the woman who must do this, it’s the woman’s job to protect herself since its her life is going to change blablabla, all valid points… However, if you’re old enough to lay there naked in between a woman’s legs, then you’re old enough to carry your responsibilities, don’t you think? If he didn’t want kids, then he should have kept it in his pants. Sorry did you miss the part where protection is never 100% solid?

It is expected of the woman give birth, nurture these kids, keep the household in check, make sure her man is emotionally and sexually satisfied because if she doesn’t, he’s gonna look outside. Keep herself sexy for her man because once again let’s remember that MEN are visual beings and its very important that we give up our entire existence to keep them. But while she’s doing all these things, she also must go to work and pay half the bills because you know what, what else do you bring to the table woman if you ain’t helping to pay the bills? But hey her educational background should not be too high because men don’t like the competition. After all, he is the head of the home.

Have you ever heard someone ask a man how he juggles a wife and kids and still manages to work? I haven’t either.

Have you ever heard someone ask a man in a bar where he left his kids?

Why does putting my child’s father on child support make me money hungry? Isn’t it his responsibility to contribute to the child’s welfare just as it is mine? I’m sorry, I am extremely confused.

Why is a father doing his fatherly duties considered great? Once more, I am extremely confused.

Some fathers really say rubbish like “babysitting my kids”. I’m sorry, do you not know the definition of a “dad”? are you an illiterate? Do you need me to break it down for you?

I have been called damaged good. Has anyone ever called a single father damaged good? Actually, they are considered cute and responsible because they are sooooo involved and they stayed.

Should the single dad not have known that the person he’s having a baby with was trash? Didn’t she show the signs? He should have definitely known better! Afterall the woman clearly said she didn’t want a baby so why lay with her? And who cares if he was once married and is now a widower perhaps? Still should have known better.

How often does a man, in a two-parent household, have to meticulously plan ahead of time because he needs to find a babysitter?

We speak so much about single mothers but actually, it is the person who left that’s responsible for the child not growing in a two-parent household. Isn’t it questionable that most single parent household consists of just the mother? Don’t you find that suspicious that that’s the norm? men raised by single mothers, grow up to create more single parent household and we bash single mothers, yet a single father is responsible.

So, here’s a guide on how to be a great dad:

• Be present
• Provide for them
• Babysit them occasionally.
• Feed them.
• Play with them.
• Once in a blue moon, take them out. Don’t forget to post on social media to let the world know.
• Pay your child support. If you don’t feel like it, you don’t have to. After all she’s just using your money to live life. And its also her responsibility to make sure them kids are tight.

A guide on how to be an average mother:

• Be present. You chose to have them kids.
• Provide for them. It is your responsibility.
• Take care of your kids. In this case, it’s not babysitting.
• Feed them. Don’t forget to cook for that grown man as well.
• Play with them. I mean, what have you been doing the whole day?
• Take them kids out. They need fresh air, and their minds need stimulation. No need to post. Nothing to see there.
• If you aren’t together with your baby daddy… sorry child’s father… do not put him on child support. It is your sole responsibility to make sure them kids, that you chose to have, are taken care of. Besides why so money hungry? Can you not see that you have so much support around you? What do you need the money for?

Once more, Happy Mother’s Day to all you average moms out there. Enjoy your day. Be chinning up and continue reading Isaiah 41:10.