I (don’t) Trust you.

Have you ever trusted someone? Blindly, with your life? Yes, No? If your answer is yes, then I hope you trusted Jesus.

I find the concept of trust to be rather fascinating. Such a small word yet holds great meaning to it. The easiest way to gain is by just being honest. It might take weeks, month or even years to build yet can be lost in a matter of seconds.

One lie. One betrayal. One stab in the back and it is gone. Once it’s gone, you begin to question everything. One lie is all it takes for trust to be broken and a bunch of truth to be questioned.

Lady Gaga, in one of her songs, said “Trust is like a mirror, you can fix it if it’s broken, But you can still the crack in that motherf*cker’s reflection”

I recently had someone close to me break my trust and trust me I already have trust issues. I don’t trust people easily, so when I do trust someone and it gets taken for granted, I am really hurt.

Naturally, I was…. I am hurt but the tricky part is when you love someone, a family member, a friend, your spouse, you always try to understand WHY. That is always in the forefront.

The Why is, in my opinion, the reason most people take their cheating partners back. You ever noticed that after one person cheats and after we’ve all cursed them, our next course of action is to understand why! I know someone who cheated on their partner and even though we condemned this action we understood why the person did it (which in no way justifies what they had done).

The Why is the reason why toxic Family members stick around for far too long.

Why and Love. Because we love them, we want to understand. In my humble opinion, I believe that the why is our own way of somewhat justifying their actions because we tell ourselves that when we understand why they did, then maybe we can work on it and then it might not happen again.

I have used that reasoning as well. But not to stay but to leave. If I had known why, I would have stayed. Anyways now we are getting into another topic there……

Trust is like a vase, once it’s broken, though you can fix it, the vase will never be same again.

– Walter Anderson

A piece of paper does not get back to its initial form after it has been folded.

No matter how much you try to repair a plate, glass, whatever that’s breakable, it will never go back to its perfect form.

No matter how much we apologize for offending someone or hurting them with our words, we cannot take them back after they have been spoken and the person cannot “un-hear” them either. My point is Its better and easier to keep something intact than trying to repair it.

Trust dies but mistrust blossoms

– Sophocles

Trust is so delicate and if you have the power to not break it, you shouldn’t do it. Preserve your relationship with your loved ones because something so little can really mess with people’s minds. And if you have broken someone’s trust and you’re GENUINLY working on getting it back then I wish you best of luck because good and genuine people don’t come by easy these days. Put in the work. If the friendship or relationship with anyone is worth it, work on reinstating the trust, and I know it is hard. I have been there. Multiple times. While you’re working on regaining someone’s trust or working on trusting someone back, don’t forget to chin up and read Isaiah 41:10.